After years of watching learners, one thing stands out: people handle mistakes in very different ways. Some—more so in recent times—tend to hang back, only doing what’s asked, careful not to step out of line. They play it safe, sticking to the edges, afraid to get it wrong. Others dive in, give it a go, and get things mostly right—about seventy percent of the time.
And here’s the interesting bit: it’s those who try, even when thirty percent of what they do doesn’t quite land, who usually come out ahead when it really counts—grasping the first principles and the logic behind the task, not just the surface.
When we get something right, we feel good—confident, capable. We remember the answer and repeat it next time, often without thinking much about it. That’s how habits form. It’s useful, especially in the short term. But getting it right doesn’t always mean we understand it. Sometimes, it just means we’ve learned to repeat a pattern.
Mistakes, on the other hand, ask more of us. They interrupt us. They invite us to pause, get curious. What went wrong? Why didn’t it work? That’s where real learning begins—not just doing but understanding. As the saying goes: success breeds habit, failure breeds learning.
Personally, I enjoy tinkering with new ideas just to see where they lead. Most of the time, things go partly right—but not quite as expected. Still, those moments are full of insight. I ask myself, “What did I learn? What was the tweak that caused the unexpected result? What if I tried it again, slightly differently—what would happen then?”
That’s where the growth lives—in letting go of the need to be perfect. Failing fast and often can lead to stronger skills and better outcomes, if we stop chasing the right answer and start tuning into the process instead.
Of course, getting something right is worth a quiet celebration. But getting it wrong—if you’re really paying attention—can be even better. The real loss isn’t failure. It’s hesitation. Sitting on the sidelines means missing out on both habit and learning. In the end, all you build is the habit of holding back. And that’s the one habit that’s hardest to unlearn.