The Golden Rule wisely states:
Do unto others as you would have others do unto you.
This is an excellent guideline, but can this rule become less of a maximum and more of a minimum? For example, how about:
Do unto others AT LEAST as you would have others do unto you.
So what? you comment: what is the intended difference? The basic Golden Rule can occasionally sound like a quid-pro-quod, reciprocity arrangement. It can feel like a barter arrangement or expectation management process: fair trade which is indeed equitable and useful BUT….. can we do better?
By adding “at least”, the most powerful well-being exercise is enabled, which is kindness or better still, random acts of kindness. Doing three acts of kindness a week (preferably on the same day) will improve your well-being. The harder you push the kindness, and the more random and anonymous it is, the more enhancing to your spirits it becomes.
Going the exact mile is easy as the road is rarely crowded.* The second mile is generally even easier than the first. The momentum of your kindness is already in play and the rewards for others (and yourself) actually scales up and multiples. As Matthieu Ricard notes, altruism** is one of the defining and highest of human ambitions, enabling wellness and joyfulness. By adding, AT LEAST to the Golden Rule the bounty of kindness and compassion is brought more clearly into focus and practice.
Being kind or altruistic until it begins to bite or seem inconvenient has the wonderful quality of making our compassion and charity feel special and uplifting. Practice doing unto others as you would have them do unto you, regularly, and then once in the while, push a little harder or further. Like any exercise, this extra excursion strengthens your kindness muscles and make you more naturally compassionate.
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*: Wayne Dryer
**: Matthieu Ricard, Altruism, The Science and Psychology of Kindness