An interesting shift in terminology around the science of happiness and well-being is occurring. A growing number of positive psychologists have shifted their view and discussion of well-being to a larger perspective. Rather than talking about happiness, they now describe their goal as to understand the experience of flourishing.
Changing your paradigm to flourishing from happiness is empowering. Being happy may sounds to some like you are just smiley faced, a gleeful but not especially purposeful or grounded person. They may view you as being too obsessed with the NOW (which isn’t correct or complete, but does have some merit). The idea of flourishing has a more expansive remit, as it implies growth and an interest in tomorrow.
This change in positive psychology terminology is more than clever marketing. It embraces an enlarged view of what a more joyful life might entail as described below (1):
Authentic Happiness Theory: Focus: Happiness
Goal: Increase one’s life satisfaction primarily by increasing Positive emotions, Engagement, and Positive Relationships
Well-Being Theory: Focus: Well-being
Goal: Increase one’s flourishing by increasing Positive emotions, Engagement, Meaning, Positive Relationships, and Accomplishment (or PERMA)
So what? you reasonably ask. At the very least, if one changes the way one describes their well-being goal from happiness to flourishing others may not dismiss you as readily, and may listen to you less judgementally. Secondly, and very importantly, the inclusion of accomplishments (achievement) and meaning (purpose) into your repertoire of well-being tools does materially expand ways you might improve your quality of life.
Personally, I find it much easier and helpful to challenge myself to flourish than to be happy. Acknowledging creating purpose and valuing accomplishment as concrete aspects of my well-being causes me to reflect on what I can DO proactively and privately to improve my quality of life. By adding engagement I acknowledge the intense satisfaction I can get when I am engaged or busy in something deeply satisfying.
By giving attention to what really matters to you (meaning), developing the skills to do it well (engagement), and seeking to excel, you should become a flourishing (and happy) camper!
Start thinking about and acting out your FLOURISH agenda.
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(1): Martin Seligman, Flourish, (Nicholas Brealey Publishing, 2011)