Part of becoming more British is that one learns to forever fret about the weather. My wife cannot go to bed without checking the forecast and the day starts with a detailed projection of what is coming next. The British like to tell you when the next rain is expected, so you make the most of it if it is looking promising today.
I am resisting the urge, but I do have two weather apps on my phone. Earlier this week I checked them both for the local conditions. At precisely the same time (and likely using the same data) the story they told was rather different: I had to check again whether the location was the same. One showed clouds and rain at that moment and for much of the morning. The other showed the sun behind a cloud and suggested the potential of light showers. They both agreed the temperature currently was 14C. The actual morning was light rain, but nothing worth getting worked up about.
Aren’t these two apps like life? Two of us can look out of the window, read an article or listen to a piece of music and have such different experiences. We are each entitled to how we process our reality, but which app is better for our wellness: clouds and rain or sun with clouds?
A long time ago, the sun with clouds perspective became my dominant view. When events were going well, I relish that moment, and when the circumstances were challenging, I look for the silver lining. Initially framing things positively took some effort, but before long no prodding was necessary. I learned that for those circumstances that you cannot change, you need to let go of them. Where you have some influence, you need to make the best of what you can do, feeling blessed that you are in that moment none-the-less. Maybe you think I am very naïve or on another planet, and you are most likely correct, but so what! I have trained myself to be more joyful in my present moment and be excited for whatever is coming up next. The uncertainty of what it next is exciting, not fearful. An important part of my personal smaller cup theory is to keep as much positivity and gratitude in my cup, looking for awe and wonder and minimizing whatever may bring me down.
Which is your life app: clouds and rain or sun with clouds? And if you live in Britain, learn to let go of the weather, unless you are going out cycling!!
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