Everyone has a present and a future self. Your present self is how you see yourself in your own mind, today, as you are. Your future self is the person you may imagine yourself to be in the future. Take a look at this future self: How is this self the same or different from your present self? Are you happier? Have you learned new skills? Are you kinder? A better partner? Are you healthier? Do you relate to this future self or are they so far removed from your present self that they are really a stranger? Is it a realistic prediction of who you could become, or is it more like a fantasy?
Hal Ersnere-Hershfield from UCLA has extensively researched how our present and future selves influence our long-term well-being. Your future self significantly affects the trade-offs you make between your present and future circumstances. He suggests that the less you actively contemplate the correlation between your present and future self, the greater the disconnect between the two will be, and the more your future self will be a fantasy figure. Deferring gratification and strengthening your willpower are all about making your future self a better version of your present self.
Take for example, the issues of saving for retirement, future education, fidelity, or healthier lifestyles. The more you are mindful of the long term consequences of your immediate actions and how they could compromise or improve your future outcomes, the more these will be part of the trade-offs you make between the present moment and your future well-being. Ersnere-Hershfield noted that those with strongly developed pictures of their future selves were better they at saving for retirement, managing credit card debt, acting ethically and being purposely inclined. He suggested that being dis-connected with one’s future self seemed to give one permission to ignore the consequences of one’s actions.*
Kelly McGonigal suggests three interesting ways to improve your awareness and accountability to your future self.
1. Create a Future Memory. Imagining the future helps people delay gratification. You do not even need to think about the future rewards of delaying gratification – just thinking about the future seems to work. When you picture the future, the brain begins to think more concretely and immediately about the consequences of your present choices. The more real and vivid the future feels, the more likely you are to decide in favour of things that your future self won’t regret.
2. Send an Email Message to Your Future Self. Go to: www.FutureMe.org and write an email that will be sent to you at a specified future date. Describe to your future self what you are going to do now to help yourself meet your long-term goals. What are your hopes for your future self? What do you think you will be like? You can also imagine your future self looking back on your present self. What would your future self thank you for, if you were able to commit to it today?
3. Imagine Your Future Self. Studies show that imagining your future self can increase your present self’s willpower. Can you imagine a hoped-for future self who is committed to the change, and reaping the benefits? Or a future self suffering the consequences of not changing? Let yourself daydream in vivid detail, imagining how you will feel, how you will look, and what pride, gratitude, or regret you will have for your past self’s choices. **
Your future self can be your best friend if you empower it to be your guiding light and inspiration for a wonderful future.
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*: Future self-continuity: How conceptions of the future self transform intertemporal choice, Hershfield, H.E. (2011).
**: Maximum Willpower: How to master the new science of self-control, Kelly McGonigal