In ourselves, we can be both very influential and very influenced. According to sociologists, even the most isolated individual will influence 10,000 other people during his or her lifetime!* We are in turn significantly influenced, on average, by at least 25 colleagues, 14 family members and 150 friends and associates over a lifetime.** That is a lot of influence going around! Put another way, we are all rather influential and impressionable.
Being able to influence well over 10,000 others, to me, is an awesome opportunity to make a positive difference in the lives of others. The example we set by what we do (and don’t do) impacts greatly on others. In the smallest of ways, both privately and publicly, we should try to set a good example by living uplifting and constructive lives. Younger folks are watching and noting accordingly. What values do you find most central and essential to who you are? Do you actively promote and reinforce these qualities within your circle of influence? Would others know that these attributes are central to your identity?
Being significantly influenced by about 200 others seems reasonable to me. I would suggest that about 20 people influenced most of who and what I became, without any one of them I would be a different person. These 20 had faith in me, were excellent role models, were kind and patient, mentored and monitored me along the way and opened doors. The next 180 keep me on my path, encouraged me and taught me the finer skills of life. A limited few were examples of what not to do, especially useful in its own way.
I recently sent a sincere thank you to one of my key enablers, something I would truly recommend.
Being influenced by so many should make us mindful of the company and influencers we associate with or follow. Role models matter. On the influential side, perhaps there are some younger folk you could potentially mentor.
Overall, consider the influences on your own life, and see if you can make these relationships more constructive and effective.
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*: Developing the Leader within you 2.0 by John C. Maxwell
**: https://blog.adioma.com/counting-the-people-you-impact-infographic/