Wayne Gretzky made the above observation about hockey (and life). There are many versions of this saying, and they all make the same point: without commitment, risk taking and effort, you will miss out on many of life’s opportunities.
Having had the opportunity to observe thousands of university learners, it is rather easy to identify those that are likely to be successful, and those who are less likely to be so. What distinguishes the achievers is their willingness to be seen and heard, and a keenness to risk being wrong for the reward of being right and learning something extra (getting a goal).The under-achievers take few risks and seem to actively sabotage their opportunities by apparent indifference and disengagement. Luckily, most pupils are somewhere in-between, but could easily up their game.
This shows itself very markedly with regard to student participation in classes. Many students are fearful of embarrassing themselves with a wrong answer, and convince themselves others will ridicule them. They miss 100% of the opportunities that interaction affords.
Having watched the classroom dynamics for many years, there are two conclusions I note from those that humbly engage:
Others almost always judge those that engage very compassionately. There is a calm and real kindness, a silent respect, for that person interacting, as others admire that person putting themselves at risk (and silently thinking, “I would have said that”.
Even more rarely is a response or suggestion completely wrong.Generally, at least part of what was noted had merit. More importantly, the act of engagement made the situation feel more inclusive and collaborative.
Pause for a moment and reflect, when someone speaks, do you judge them harshly or unkindly? Likely you don’t, unless that person’s ego is large or they are attention seeking. Taking shots at learning and life opportunities by risking a wrong or stupid answer or idea is the key to critical thinking, progress, promotions and finding your calling.
Provided one is humble and respectful, whether in the classroom or the workplace, putting your ideas and suggestions forward will reward you richly. And once in a while you will certainly score a goal – so be courageous and take a risk!