John Lennon noted:

‘Everything will be okay in the end … 

If it’s not okay, then it is not the end.’"

This short observation of life certainly has been proven correct so many times in my life.  Looking back at my many missteps and errors, I note that but for a very few occasions, things ended on satisfactory or pleasing notes; they did indeed end up being okay. We all make mistakes, but somehow things seem to work out, eventually. 

To start the process of recovery, it was essential that I privately and profoundly acknowledged my mistakes, accepting responsibility for my actions and the consequences: no blame shifting or looking for scape goats.  Feeling a victim only prolongs the healing process.  Next, there must be a lesson to be learned: to make mistakes is human, to repeat the mistake is total foolishness.  Where apologies or requests for forgiveness are required, we need to get on with it.  Where there were others involved that may have contributed to the situation, unconditional forgiving of them may also be required. 

Now the harder part; waiting and patience.  Reasonably, when I erred, it is fair game that some time is required to absorb, learn from and get over the event.  Nothing instant or overnight.  Months may pass but the “not being okay” state did pass eventually.  What was curious was when the dust finally settled, the new “okay” was frequently very different then I had imagined and sometimes better than before the process started.

Finally, let’s check if matters are actually OKAY.  Looking at my past transgressions I apply the erase test.  What is this?  Imagine that personal error had never occurred and 100% of ALL related knock-on effects were forever erased and had also never occurred.  Speculate as to whether you would be where you are today, in your current reality.  More likely than  not, much of your current circumstances would be otherwise. If you are okay with where you are now, then indeed it is the end of that episode and it did end well.

Work with the healing process: matters will be okay or better, eventually.

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