Authentic and timely praise is an expression of approval, honour, respect, admiration or commendation for the achievement or qualities of someone or something.   

Over the past two weeks there has been so much sincere praise for the achievements of Olympic athletes.  Perhaps it is timely to ponder how this admiration resonated within us.  C. S. Lewis wrote:

The most obvious fact about praise … strangely escaped me … I had never noticed that all enjoyment spontaneously overflows into praise … the world rings with praise … walkers praising the countryside, players praising their favourite game – praise of weather, wines, dishes, actors, horses, colleges, countries, historical personages, children, flowers, mountains, rare stamps, rare books, even sometimes politicians and scholars… I think we delight to praise what we enjoy because the praise not merely expresses but completes the enjoyment; it is its appointed consummation*

When an athlete did something spectacular,  we marvelled and enjoyed their success. Had we been there, we would likely have clapped, stood up and cheered  to honour and admire their success, and smiled and enjoyed the event.

Praising others is a uniquely empowering emotion. It improves the wellbeing of the recipient when sincerely given, at an appropriate moment.  This admiration has a second personal benefit, as it brings us into the present moment and our own spirits are enhanced.  By praising others, we also elevate our own wellness.

Think about it.  When your compliment your partner, colleague, child or friend for doing something noteworthy, what happens?  First, it puts both of you into the present moment. Then the relationship gets a positive boost as the recipient appreciates your attentiveness and relishes your tribute.  And all along you are spontaneously feeling uplifted and happy.

Being judgemental is discouraged, as this judgement too often is negative. Caution can restrain our willingness to risk praising others.   As C. S. Lewis suggests, praise is uplifting and completes our enjoyment.  Authentic praise is a selfless form of gratitude which makes everyone’s world better. 

Actively seek out praising opportunities (but do be mindful that the timing is essential as many folks are modest and embarrass easily if commenced in public). 

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*:C. S. Lewis,  Reflections on the Psalms